Adoption in US/ PA

In the state of PA... there are not many options for adoption. If you adopt in US you risk the chance of the mother changing her mind ( at last minute or even after you have the baby), theres the SWAN program which are children who are consider handicapped in some way, or Children & youth which unless the parents rights are taking a way or giving up they to can come back. We have talked To SWAN & children youth but both services said the chance of getting a baby under age 3 is low...But the like to keep the natural order in the family. So since Jacob is only 1 1/2 years old/. It limits us... I understand their reasoning. Children youth is all about keeping families together.. which I agree with. SWAN is a great program if you are not a working family. My husband & I both work. And it would be unfair for us to do this to a child who has special needs. They need your attention 24/ 7. Some day I may have that time...but I do not right now.
To adopt in PA or US the cost is pretty much the same as going internationally only thing is you fear if the birth mother /father will come back. But god will let us know what to do and the right way to go about it.